tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251694483990832302024-02-20T06:47:29.552+05:30My Hugsskashliwalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476442220130515864noreply@blogger.comBlogger200125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-325169448399083230.post-78984437108026905592013-11-03T07:01:00.003+05:302013-11-03T07:01:52.125+05:30<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” ~ <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Luther_King%2C_Jr.">Martin Luther King Jr.</a><br />"In every language, every culture, the most difficult words you have to say are: "I'm sorry. Forgive me." "I'm Sorry...I'm Sorry...I'm Sorry How Many Times Do I Have To Say That. Until You Mean It." ~ Degrassiesmond Tutu<br /><span style="color: #37404e; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17.98611068725586px;"><br /></span></span><div>
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skashliwalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476442220130515864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-325169448399083230.post-72422079374674879102013-09-13T07:11:00.000+05:302013-09-13T07:11:01.290+05:30I WISH YOU ENOUGH<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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skashliwalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476442220130515864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-325169448399083230.post-17921508569503355502013-07-27T12:58:00.000+05:302013-07-27T12:58:26.255+05:30Is Love Enough? – by John Welwood<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<strong><em>John Welwood</em></strong> talks about the challenges of finding and keeping a <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intimate_relationship" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Intimate relationship">relationship</a> in this age of anxiety <strong><em><a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.interviewmagazine.com/" rel="homepage" target="_blank" title="Interview (magazine)">Interview</a> By Keith Thompson</em></strong></div>
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John Welwood was ready to step outside the box. The year was 1974. He’d just gotten his <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doctor_of_Philosophy" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Doctor of Philosophy">Ph.D.</a> in <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical_psychology" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Clinical psychology">clinical psychology</a> from the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=41.7897222222,-87.5997222222&spn=0.01,0.01&q=41.7897222222,-87.5997222222%20(University%20of%20Chicago)&t=h" rel="geolocation" target="_blank" title="University of Chicago">University of Chicago</a>, having written a doctorate with the bold title, “A <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Approach" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="New Approach">New Approach</a> to the Unconscious.”</div>
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Keenly interested in the interface between psychology and spirituality, Welwood set out to investigate for himself the contemplation practices of the world, especially <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buddhism" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Buddhism">Buddhism</a>.</div>
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<strong>Lots of different maps for relationship territory. Where do you put down your fences?</strong></div>
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I find it helpful to distinguish between absolute/unconditional and relative/<a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unconditional_love" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Unconditional love">conditional love</a>. Absolute love is like the light of the sun—it continually shines through us, whether we are open to it or not. Even on a cloudy day, the sun is always shining. It's choiceless. This is because our true nature, our original essence is love, a powerful blend of openness and warmth.</div>
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The human heart is a channel through which absolute love streams into this world. But this channel is often obstructed. So we inevitably experience love through our filters, which are like <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cloud" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Cloud">clouds</a> in the sky. Relative or conditional love is like filtered sunlight—the sun starts to come out when we feel attraction, when another pleases us, but soon disappears behind the clouds when we are displeased. So relative love is not steady or reliable, it's like a partly cloudy day.</div>
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<span style="font-size: 14px;">Clouds are a metaphor for the conditioned personality, the accumulation of fears, hurts, defenses, grievances that effectively hide the sun, or diminish the presence of love in our lives. I used to think of the clouds as obscuring love, but now I’m coming to think of the clouds as functions of love itself. In the sense that anger, competitiveness, jealousy, meanness, grief, insecurity, fear of abandonment are all reactions against not feeling fully loved. If we have not felt fully loved, we carry that experience in our bodies. We do not entirely trust love and may even turn away from it. But if we have had some experience of being held in the arms of love, we can usually take more risks in opening ourselves to it.</span></div>
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The beginning of a relationship is usually a time of incredible openness between two people. A time when both partners directly and immediately experience the powerful being-to-being connection that is the essence of love. Oh sure, your partner has his or her little flaws and imperfections. But at first you don’t even notice them or give them any importance. That’s because the sun is out, full blaze, for both partners. It’s only later, as the relationship progresses, that the clouds of each individual’s personal issues get in the way. Old emotional wounds and disappointments get reactivated, many of them going back to the earliest <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Experience" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Experience">experiences</a> in life. Then each person tends to project all their old grievances, stemming from old wounds, onto the new relationship, and harden their defenses.</div>
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<strong>You’ve written about what you call the “universal human wound.”</strong></div>
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That’s the feeling of not being loved, especially not being loved for who we are. Most of us have had at least some glimpse of unconditional love in our lives. The child is born, and the parents are delighted by the sheer presence of this beautiful being in their lives. It’s the same with falling in love. We’re simply dazzled by the other person, it’s like magic. The clouds part, the sun shines, birds sing. But that sense of profound openness and acceptance doesn't continue in a consistent or reliable way, because we all have conditioned personalities and emotional issues that get in the way. This is where the real path of relationship begins, as we learn to work skillfully with what gets activated.</div>
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<strong>Identifying one’s own cloud cover seems like a good place to start.</strong></div>
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Yes. It’s crucial, yet quite challenging to work with the emotional issues that shut down our heart and block our soul, or essential nature, from fully blossoming. We need to learn to tap the solar power of our larger nature, which has the strength to burn off the clouds of the conditioned personality. In writing my two books on conscious relationship—Journey of the Heart and Love and Awakening—I saw that there was a tremendous need for a whole new approach to relationship today. We need a new vision of relationship that can help us understand and use its challenges as opportunities for personal transformation. If we don't hold the challenges of relationship in this kind of larger vision, I don't see how relationships can remain vital and strong, or even durable in times like these.</div>
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<strong>Why is it so easy for one’s partner to become the personification of past disappointments?</strong></div>
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Each of us has an image of the “bad other”—the one who hurt us, who didn't fully love or understand us—stored in our psyche, just ready and waiting to be projected onto the one we love the most. When someone you care about says no to you, it’s remarkable how quickly and seamlessly he or she can become the living embodiment of every rejection you’ve ever experienced. It's hard to see this when you’re in the middle of acting it out. You become swept up in the grievance movie: "See, nobody really loves, respects, or cares about me. You're just like all the rest." And then you have to get back at them: "I'll show you that you can't treat me like this." Meanwhile, your partner is reacting to you the same way, and the conflict escalates. Many couples are shocked and confused by how quickly the honeymoon can dissolve into acrimony. This happens because we all carry a stored-up grievance against the bad other that is easily triggered.</div>
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<strong>It’s not pleasant to ponder the possibility that each of us is carting around unfinished emotional business. Much easier to focus on what other people are doing wrong.</strong></div>
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Yes, that's why we need to understand relationship as a path of spiritual development— so that we can work with our blind spots in a more creative, compassionate way. I use the term “soul connection” for two people's mutual recognition that they are in each other's lives to catalyze growth and bring out the best in each other. This is a marvelous opportunity. But there’s a catch. The best can only come out if the worst can also come out.</div>
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<strong>Same emotional valve?</strong></div>
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I’m afraid so. The deeper the love between two people, the more it flushes out all the obstacles to love—our deepest, darkest wounds and unworked emotional reactivity. When their worst side starts coming out, most people see it as a threat to their love But it's really the opposite: Love is the greatest healing power on earth, but it can only heal what presents itself to be healed. Love wants to bend and reshape us so that we become a clearer channel through which it can flow. It's as though the power of love brings these old wounds to the surface, so they can be held in love's embrace. If they stay hidden, they can't be healed. And if they're not healed, they keep generating clouds that block the flow of love. So to fully love, we must be willing to expose our wounds.</div>
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Of course, we get really freaked out when we see, hear, feel the worst parts of ourselves coming out and the reactions going back and forth. You shut down, and I react to your shutdown, and then you react to my reaction, and it keeps escalating. Most people are familiar with this kind of ego-to-ego combat, and with it comes a fork in the road. If you have some commitment to conscious relationship, and can hold this friction in the space of loving awareness, it can become what I call "sacred combat." Two partners are not only lovers, but also worthy opponents, who can help each other see exactly what they most need to see about themselves if they are to heal their old wounds and grievances, which only keep them stuck in the nightmare of the past.</div>
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<strong>Sounds suspiciously like growing up.</strong></div>
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Yes. Growing up means growing out of the emotional reactive patterns that were laid down in childhood. I should mention that an important part of this work is learning how to hold our emotions and reactivity in a space of kindness and understanding.</div>
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Beyond growing up, there's a greater possibility as well—waking up. A loving relationship can also help us plug into our deeper nature, the absolute radiance in our heart, so that we begin to connect with another person from this more inclusive, more genuinely loving part of ourselves. This means waking up to who we really are—that fundamental openness and warmth of the sun. It means learning to live more and more from that place, even when new clouds arise, as they will.</div>
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<strong>The culture doesn’t provide many models for understanding these dynamics as an integral part of relationships.</strong></div>
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To the extent that our culture has turned into an entertainment industry, it does nothing to prepare us for this work. So most of us enter relationships fairly clueless about what they will ask of us. The conventional message of Valentine’s Day is that love should be all fuzzy and warm. There's not much recognition of the outrageous journey of transformation that love calls on us to undertake.</div>
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When the sunlight of love pierces the clouds of self-defense, heat meets cold, the moisture in the clouds condenses, and storms ensue. That is what makes real clearings possible. Think of the freshness in the air after a big storm passes over. But if we think that love should only provide comfort and security, we will regard any turbulence as a problem, and wind up feeling bad about ourselves, our partner, or the relationship. And this only adds fuel to our grievance.</div>
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<strong>Let’s go back. If love is the very ground of our nature, why is love not a greater force in our political and economic life? Why is love not penetrating the collective level of human interactions?</strong></div>
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I have been asking exactly those questions, especially since September 11. A large part of the answer is that grievance increasingly rules our world. Attacking a bad other over there, who is causing all our problems, seems to drive our whole political dialogue. Why are political constituencies so energized by setting up this kind of target? This aggressive energy seems to be fueled by the perception that I don’t feel seen, I don’t feel recognized or validated, I don’t feel honored or respected. In other words, the political arena is where the collective acts out, often in the crudest ways, the lack of love that so many individuals feel inside themselves.</div>
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Consider bin Laden. There’s really no way this man could believe he would destroy America by attacking the World Trade Center and the Pentagon. No, what he’s doing is getting back. The Arab peoples have suffered more than a hundred years of humilation and mistreatment at the hands of the Western powers. So this attack was a way of saying: “I matter, I count. I'll show you that you can’t step on me.” It’s a demand to be seen, heard, recognized. When we counter his attack only with a military response, without also addressing the underlying pain, despair, and rage that give rise to terrorism, it may wipe out this band of terrorists in the short run—but it doesn't resolve the fundamental problem in the long run.</div>
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<strong>In couples therapy, one partner launches an attack. “I haven’t felt seen for so long, I’m going to let you have it.” The other partner counterattacks, or threatens to. It's the same kind of mutual escalation we see in the world.</strong></div>
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Yes. Sometimes one partner deals with threatening situations in a relationship by trying to control and intimidate the other partner. This might work for a while, but there's always a rebound. The partner who has been kept down eventually gets back in one way or another. It's the same in the Middle East. It’s obvious that the brutal use of force does nothing but increase resentment and further violence.</div>
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So we are called on to do the same work at a collective level that we need to do in our personal relationships; namely, to see how we demonize a bad other, and how this only generates perpetual suffering, war, and insecurity. We need to grow up on the collective level too, and start bringing the spirit of love and compassion into the political arena. Although as a nation we may need to oppose our enemies with strength and determination, we also need to realize that they are human beings just like us, that humanity is one body, and that we're all in this together. If we dehumanize them, we dehumanize ourselves as well.</div>
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<strong>A news report earlier today talked about people cheering, celebrating, crying with joy at the news that a bus filled with school children was turned into an inferno by bombers claiming to be acting in selfdefense.</strong></div>
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All the religious traditions have tried to explain the problem of evil. Augustine came up with the idea of original sin. If you use religious doctrine as proof that people are basically bad, this makes it easy to righteously attack your enemy as evil incarnate. But Jesus never talked about original sin. Although there are evil behaviors, evil actions, I have faith in the underlying, original goodness of all human beings. As Arnaud Desjardins, a French spiritual teacher said, “There are no bad people, only badly loved people.” The problem with glib formulations of evil is the way they create justification for maintaining the us-versus-them stance that generates all the war and violence in the world. Bin Laden attacks us as infidels in the name of Allah, and U.S. politicians invoke God when plotting who to bomb thousands of miles away.</div>
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<strong>A suicide bomber as a badly loved person. I need a moment to wrap my mind around that.</strong></div>
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The suicide bomber has a deep sense of resentment, grievance, a desire to get revenge for being badly treated. He is willing to blow himself up to get back at you. Wow, we see that as alien, we can’t understand it. Yet most of us do something similar, on a much lesser scale, in our relationships. In shutting down, hardening our heart, and attacking our partner as the bad other, we are destroying parts of ourselves.</div>
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<strong>Our cultural stories are filled with this motif. If it’s necessary for me to suffer deeply and irrevocably in the name of holding to my position, I will do so. I’ll be a martyr to my grievance in order to get back at the bad other whom I believe wronged me.</strong></div>
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When couples come in to work on their issues, they often have twice as much energy for making their partner wrong than for setting things right. They have a tremendous investment in their complaint: “You did this to me, you said that to me.” Some people are so deeply committed to their grievance that they are willing to blow up the relationship and their own happiness just to prove their partner wrong. So in some sense they are “willing to die” for their grievance.</div>
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<strong>To stay with the work you do, you must also see your share of transformations.</strong></div>
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Oh yes. Once two partners embrace relationship as a transformative journey, and learn how to work with their reactive emotions and conditioned patterns, all things become possible. Their relationship becomes a living process of discovery, rather than a finished product. Eventually they realize that a great relationship with their partner also requires them to develop a great relationship with themselves— by connecting with who they most deeply are. And when you finally discover that no one else can ever love you perfectly, you can finally lay down your grievance against other and open yourself more fully to the flow of love that is always there, streaming into the channel of the heart from the absolute source of everything.</div>
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This was the lead story in the Marin County weekly, The Pacific Sun, February, 2002. Copyright by John Welwood. All rights reserved.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /><br />Silence is an absence <br /><br />Silence is profound <br /><br />Silence is a conversation <br /><br />Being had without sound<br /><br />Silence is an expression <br /><br />One that cannot be heard<br /><br />Silence cannot be spoken <br /><br />Although it is a word<br /><br />Silence is a presence <br /><br />Of great nothingness<br /><br />Silence can be something<br /><br />And yet cease to exist<br /><br />Silence can fill a room <br /><br />And have no mass at all<br /><br />Silence cannot be dropped, yet it can fall<br /><br />Silence is a mystery <br /><br />That will forever go unsolved <br /><br />Silence is how every sound can swiftly be dissolved<br /><br />Silence is the sound of rest<br /><br />The only sound that can sound best <br /><br />While other sounds can cause great pain <br /><br />Silence is not the sound to blame <br /><br />For Silence is what silence is<br /><br />Something that is nothing <br /><br />Nothing that exists <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />~ Kyle.J Carruthers ~</span></div>
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skashliwalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476442220130515864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-325169448399083230.post-29294658991630007912013-04-13T13:53:00.000+05:302013-04-13T13:57:20.105+05:30Attitude<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-size: large;">Attitude is vastly important because it presents your image to the world and is the driving force behind behaviour Your attitude influences your world and everything you do in it. It defines the energy you send out and, in turn, takes shape and colour in your circumstances. If you have a positive attitude, you are more welcoming and people are drawn to you.<br /><br />A positive attitude opens you to the flow of life. If you are depressed, angry, and unhappy, no one wants to be around you. You literally push people and opportunities away.<br /><br />To attract positive, joyful, and prosperous situations to you, you must be that way yourself. If you have an open, loving, positive attitude, anything burdensome in life can be lightened. Therefore, it is important to be aware of your mood. It is created by your thoughts. Every day you have a choice of how you will behave, the mood you will give out to the world, and how you want people to know you.<br /><br />So if you want something in your life, first you must think of it, put your intention behind it, and keep your focus on it. It is almost like baking a cake. The thought is in the oven and you have to keep it baking with belief. You have to see your thought manifesting and becoming real.<br /><br />Follow your heart and be true to yourself. Never live the life of another. You have to create your own road. You have a responsibility to be the best you can possibly be, so keep your mind and heart open to the higher aspects of your being. And you will harness the power to have a loving and fulfilling life with attitude!<br /><br />By <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Van_Praagh" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="James Van Praagh">James Van Praagh</a><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br />~ <a href="http://marianne.com/">Marianne Williamson</a>, from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Return-Love-Reflections-Principles-Miracles/dp/0060927488%3FSubscriptionId%3D0G81C5DAZ03ZR9WH9X82%26tag%3Dzemanta-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0060927488">Return to Love</a> <br /><a href="http://www.zemanta.com/?px"></a></span><img alt="Enhanced by Zemanta" class="zemanta-pixie-img" src="http://img.zemanta.com/zemified_e.png?x-id=663bc86c-afcb-4dff-9608-42323e9d769f" style="border: none; float: right;" /></div>
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And now the
end is near<o:p></o:p></div>
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And so I
face the final curtain<o:p></o:p></div>
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My friend
I'll say it clear<o:p></o:p></div>
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I'll state
my case of which I'm certain<o:p></o:p></div>
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I've lived a
life that's full<o:p></o:p></div>
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I traveled
each and every highway<o:p></o:p></div>
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And more,
much more than this<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did it my
way<o:p></o:p></div>
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Regrets I've
had a few<o:p></o:p></div>
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But then
again too few to mention<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did what I
had to do<o:p></o:p></div>
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And saw it
through without exemption<o:p></o:p></div>
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I planned
each charted course<o:p></o:p></div>
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Each careful
step along the byway<o:p></o:p></div>
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And more,
much more than this<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did it my
way<o:p></o:p></div>
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Yes there
were times I'm sure you knew<o:p></o:p></div>
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When I bit
off more than I could chew<o:p></o:p></div>
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But through
it all when there was doubt<o:p></o:p></div>
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I ate it up
and spit it out, I faced it all<o:p></o:p></div>
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And I stood
tall and did it my way<o:p></o:p></div>
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I've loved,
I've laughed and cried<o:p></o:p></div>
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I've had my
fill, my share of losing<o:p></o:p></div>
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And now as
tears subside<o:p></o:p></div>
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I find it
all so amusing<o:p></o:p></div>
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To think I
did all that<o:p></o:p></div>
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And may I
say not in a shy way<o:p></o:p></div>
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Oh no, oh
no, not me<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did it my
way<o:p></o:p></div>
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For what is
a man what has he got<o:p></o:p></div>
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If not
himself then he has not<o:p></o:p></div>
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To say the
things he truly feels<o:p></o:p></div>
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And not the
words of one who kneels<o:p></o:p></div>
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The record
shows I took the blows<o:p></o:p></div>
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And did it
my way<o:p></o:p></div>
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~ Frank Sinarta<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 17px;"> ~ </span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 17px;">Song lyrics ~</span></div>
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Why fly
from the dreams</div>
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Where the
oceans laugh,</div>
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And the
diamond nighted whisper</div>
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Sweeps
fire to your heart.</div>
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Why drown
yourself in fleshed</div>
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Decadence
of carnal desires</div>
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To
cleanse the tears of forsaken</div>
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Love in
minds past.</div>
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Why chase
the wind</div>
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And mock
the rain</div>
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Why dance
with the devil</div>
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Of
emotioned moonlight.</div>
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Why
gallop to gunshot</div>
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Pleasure
derived in functional</div>
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Lusted
<a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Physical attractiveness">physical attraction</a>.</div>
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Why laugh
at the ships</div>
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That jest
for your nights</div>
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For your
soul means to love</div>
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To
cherish, to weep, to falter</div>
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To
forsake, to feel to touch</div>
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The lady
of the fire heart</div>
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“Laugh,
even when you feel too sick or too worn out or tired. </div>
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Smile,
even when you're trying not to cry and the tears are blurring your vision. </div>
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Sing,
even when people stare at you and tell you your voice is crappy. </div>
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Trust,
even when your heart begs you not to. </div>
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Twirl,
even when your mind makes no sense of what you see. </div>
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Frolick,
even when you are made fun of. Kiss, even when others are watching. Sleep, even
when you're afraid of what the dreams might bring. </div>
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Run, even
when it feels like you can't run any more.</div>
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And,
always, remember, even when the memories pinch your heart. Because the pain of
all your experience is what makes you the person you are now. And without your
experience---you are an empty page, a blank notebook, a missing lyric. What
makes you brave is your willingness to live through your terrible life and hold
your head up high the next day. So don't live life in fear. Because you are
stronger now, after all the crap has happened, than you ever were back before
it started.” </div>
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~ Alysha
Speer</div>
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Human contact through Hugs lowers <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_pressure" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Blood pressure">blood pressure</a>, releases stress, and reduces the risk of <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.everydayhealth.com/heart-disease/index.aspx" rel="everydayhealth" target="_blank" title="heart disease">heart disease</a>,<br />
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;"><a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.winners.ca/" rel="homepage" target="_blank" title="Winners">Winners</a> take chances like everyone else, they fear failing,</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">but they refuse to let fear control them.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners don't give up. When life gets rough, they hang in</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">until the going gets better.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners are flexible. They realize there is more than one</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">way and are willing to try others.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners know they are not perfect. They respect their</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">weaknesses while making the most of their strengths.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners fall but they don't stay down. They stubbornly refuse</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">to let a fall keep them from climbing.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners don't blame fate for their failures, nor luck for their successes.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners accept responsibility for their lives.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners are positive thinkers who see good in all things.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">From the ordinary, they make the extraordinary.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners believe in the path they have chosen even when it</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">is hard, even when others can't see where they are going.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners are patient. They know a goal is only worthy</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">as the effort that is required to achieve it.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">Winners are people that believe in themselves.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">They make this world <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Better_Place_to_Be" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="A Better Place to Be">a better place to be</a>.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: orange;">===Author Anonymous===</span></span></div>
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</div>skashliwalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06476442220130515864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-325169448399083230.post-36100626974008011232012-03-05T17:29:00.000+05:302012-03-05T17:29:17.621+05:3040+ Lessons from Life<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<li>Life isn't fair, but it's still good.</li>
<li>When in doubt, just take the next small step.</li>
<li>Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.</li>
<li>Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch!</li>
<li>Pay off your <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.business.com/finance/business-credit-cards/" rel="businesscom" target="_blank" title="Credit Cards">credit cards</a> every month.</li>
<li>You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.</li>
<li>Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.</li>
<li>It's OK to get angry with <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/God" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="God">God</a>. He can take it.</li>
<li>Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.</li>
<li>When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.</li>
<li>Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.</li>
<li>It's OK to let your children see you cry.</li>
<li>Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.</li>
<li>If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.</li>
<li>Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.amazon.com/God-Never-Blinks-Lessons-Detours/dp/0446556521%3FSubscriptionId%3D0G81C5DAZ03ZR9WH9X82%26tag%3Dzemanta-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0446556521" rel="amazon" target="_blank" title="God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons for Life's Little Detours">God never blinks</a>.</li>
<li>Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.</li>
<li>Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.</li>
<li>Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.</li>
<li>It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.</li>
<li>When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.</li>
<li>Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special..</li>
<li>Over prepare, then go with the flow.</li>
<li>Be eccentric now. Don't wait for <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_age" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Old age">old age</a> to wear purple.</li>
<li>The most important <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_organ" rel="wikipedia" target="_blank" title="Sex organ">sex organ</a> is the brain.</li>
<li>No one is in charge of your happiness but you.</li>
<li>Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'</li>
<li>Always choose life.</li>
<li>Forgive everyone everything.</li>
<li>What other people think of you is none of your business.</li>
<li>Time heals almost everything. Give time time.</li>
<li>However good or bad a situation is, it will change.</li>
<li>Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.</li>
<li>Believe in miracles.</li>
<li>God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.</li>
<li>Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.</li>
<li>Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.</li>
<li>Your children get only one childhood.</li>
<li>All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.</li>
<li>Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.</li>
<li>If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,we'd grab ours back.</li>
<li>Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.</li>
<li>The best is yet to come.</li>
<li>No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.</li>
<li>Yield.</li>
<li>Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift</li>
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Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.cleveland.com/" rel="homepage" target="_blank" title="The Plain Dealer">The Plain Dealer</a>, <a class="zem_slink" href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=41.4822222222,-81.6697222222&spn=0.1,0.1&q=41.4822222222,-81.6697222222%20(Cleveland)&t=h" rel="geolocation" target="_blank" title="Cleveland">Cleveland , Ohio</a></span>
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While at the park one day, a woman sat down next to a man on a bench near a playground.<br /><br />“That’s my son over there,” she said, pointing to a little boy in a red sweater who was gliding down the slide.<br /><br />“He’s a fine looking boy” the man said. “That’s my daughter on the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Bike-Ron-Crawford/dp/0671870033%3FSubscriptionId%3D0G81C5DAZ03ZR9WH9X82%26tag%3Dzemanta-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0671870033">bike</a> in the white dress.”<br /><br />Then, looking at his watch, he called to his daughter. “<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Do_You_Say">What do you say</a> we go, Melissa?”<br /><br />Melissa pleaded, “Just five more minutes, Dad. Please? Just five more minutes!”<br /><br />The man nodded and Melissa continued to ride her bike to her heart’s content. Minutes passed and the father stood and called again to his daughter. “Time to go now?”<br /><br />Again Melissa pleaded, “Five more minutes, Dad. Just five more minutes!”<br /><br />The man smiled and said, “OK.”<br /><br />“My <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/God">God</a>, you certainly are a patient father,” the woman responded.<br /><br />The man smiled and then said, “Her older brother Tommy was killed by a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Driving_under_the_influence">drunk driver</a> last year while he was riding his bike near here. I never spent much time with Tommy and now I’d give anything for just five more minutes with him. I’ve vowed not to make the same mistake with Melissa.<br /><br />She thinks she has five more minutes to ride her bike. The truth is, I get five more minutes to watch her play.”<br /><br />Life is all about making priorities, what are your priorities?<br /><br />Give someone you love 5 more minutes of your time today!<br /><br /> <br /><a href="http://www.zemanta.com/"></a><a class="zemanta-pixie-a" href="http://www.zemanta.com/" title="Enhanced by Zemanta"><img alt="Enhanced by Zemanta" class="zemanta-pixie-img" src="http://img.zemanta.com/zemified_e.png?x-id=7e594e6e-4725-4ea8-b5e9-b10718e0a3a3" style="border: none; float: right;" /></a></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">A little boy wanted to meet God.<br />He packed his suitcase with two sets of clothes and some packet of Cakes and he started his journey.<br />He walked long and felt very tired,<br />So he sat in a park on the way and opened a packet of cake to eat.<br />Then he noticed an old woman sitting sad and hungry, nearby. So he offered her a piece of cake.<br />She gratefully accepted it with a surprised look and smiled at him. Her smile was so pretty that the boy longed to see it again. After some time he offered her another piece of cake.<br />Again, she accepted it and smiled at him.<br />The boy was delighted!<br />They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.<br />While it grew dark, the boy was frightened and he got up to leave but before he had gone more than a few steps, he ran back and gave her a hug and she kissed him with her prettiest smile. When the boy opened the door,his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you look so happy?"<br />He replied, "I had lunch with God."<br />Before his mother could respond, he added,<br />"You know what? She's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen in my life!"<br />Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home.<br />Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and asked,<br />"Mom, what did you do today that made you so happy?<br />"She replied, "I ate cakes in the park with God."<br />Before her son responded, she added,"You know, he's much younger than I expected."<br /><br />Too often we underestimate the power of<br />a touch,<br />a smile,<br />a kind word,<br />a listening ear,<br />an honest compliment,<br />or the smallest act of caring,<br /><br />~ All of which have the potential to turn our life around.!!!</span>
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<b><i>Our National Anthem is 100 years old.</i><br />Jana Gana Mana- <a class="zem_slink" href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=28.6133333333,77.2083333333&spn=10.0,10.0&q=28.6133333333,77.2083333333%20(India)&t=h" rel="geolocation" title="India">India</a>’s national Anthem,written and composed by Nobel Laureate <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.last.fm/music/Rabindranath%2BTagore" rel="lastfm" title="Rabindranath Tagore">Rabindranath Tagore</a> ,was first sung publicly at the Calcutta Session of the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.congress.org.in/" rel="homepage" title="Indian National Congress">Indian National Congress</a> on 27th December,1911 and later adopted as our National Anthem on 24th January 1950 by the Constituent Assembly.<br /><br /><i>The year 2011 marks the centenary year of our prestigious National Anthem.</i></b><br /> <br />Jana Gana Mana is the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jana_Gana_Mana" rel="wikipedia" title="Jana Gana Mana">national anthem of India</a>. Written in Bengali, it is the first of five stanzas of an ode composed and scored by Nobel laureate <b>Rabindranath Tagore</b>. This was first sung on 27 December 1911, at the Calcutta Session of the Indian National Congress, Jana Gana Mana was officially adopted by the Constituent Assembly as the Indian national anthem in January 24, 1950. A formal rendition of the national anthem takes<u> fifty two seconds</u>. A shortened version consisting of the first and last lines (and taking about 20 seconds to play) is also staged occasionally. The music for the current version is derived from a composition for the song by <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ram_Singh_Thakur" rel="wikipedia" title="Ram Singh Thakur">Ram Singh Thakur</a>.<br /> <br />No other Indian song is said to capture the poignancy of a do-or-die moment, be it in the sporting field or at the frontiers, the way Jana Gana Mana can.<br /><br />Jana Gana Mana, composed by Nobel laureate Rabindranath Tagore and sung for the first time at the Calcutta session of the Indian National Congress on December 27, 1911, has fired a nation's patriotism and united it in crisis and triumph for 100 years.<br /><br />In its 100-year-old history, the Indian national anthem has played a key role in unifying a country torn apart by a bloody partition, nationalist movement and popular uprisings. It has moved a country to tears during sporting victories, unfurling of the national flag and cultural and public occasions.<br /> <br />Netaji Bose's <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_National_Army" rel="wikipedia" title="Indian National Army">Indian National Army</a> adopted Jana Gana Mana as the National Anthem and Mahatma Gandhi in 1946 said the "the song has found a place in our national life." But the song's popularity is not without its share of controversies.<br /> <br /><b>Hindi Lyrics</b><br /><br /> <i>Jana Gana Mana Adhinayaka, Jaya He<br /><br />Bharata Bhagya Vidhata<br /><br />Punjab Sindhu Gujarata Maratha<br /><br />Dravida Utkala Banga (places in India)<br /><br />Vindhya Himachala Yamuna Ganga<br /><br />Uchchhala Jaladhi Taranga<br /><br />Tava Shubha Name Jage<br /><br />Tava Shubha Ashisha Mage<br /><br />Gahe Tava Jaya Gaatha<br /><br />Jana Gana Mangaladayaka Jaya He<br /><br />Bharata Bhaagya Vidhata<br /><br />Jaya He ! Jaya He ! Jaya He !<br /><br />Jaya, Jaya, Jaya, Jaya He</i><br /><br /> <b><a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_language" rel="wikipedia" title="English language">English translation</a></b><br /> <i>You rule the minds of all people<br /><br />and control India's future.<br /><br />Your name brings joy to Punjab, Sind, Gujarat and Maratha;<br /><br />and Dravida and Orissa and Bengal. (regions in India)<br /><br />It echoes in the Vindhya and Himalayan hills,<br /><br />and mixes with the music of the Yamuna and Ganga rivers.<br /><br />It is also sung by waves of the sea.<br /><br />We pray for your blessings<br /><br />and sing your praise.<br /><br />We look forward to your best wishes.<br /><br />And we wish Victory, victory, victory for you.</i> <br /><b>The Story Behind Translation</b><br />Jana Gana Mana was translated, from Sanskrit to English, by Rabindranath Tagore and the music on this English Translation was set in <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madanapalle" rel="wikipedia" title="Madanapalle">Madanapalle</a>, a small town in Andhra Pradesh. As to the story behind this translation, in 1918 Tagore was invited, by controversial Irish poet <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Cousins" rel="wikipedia" title="James Cousins">James H. Cousins</a>, to spend a few days at the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=13.55509,78.499051&spn=1.0,1.0&q=13.55509,78.499051%20(Besant%20Theosophical%20College)&t=h" rel="geolocation" title="Besant Theosophical College">Besant Theosophical College</a> (BTC). James was serving as the principal of the college, at that time.<br /> <br />On February 28, while attending a gathering of students at BTC, Rabindranath sang the Jana Gana Mana in Bengali. Suddenly, he thought of translating the song in English. A few days later, in Madanapalle, Tagore wrote down the English translation of the song. Cousins' wife, Margaret, who was an expert in Western music, set down the music for this English version. The framed original English translation is still displayed in the library of Besant Theosophical College in Madanapalle.<br /> <br />Let us salute the great'Tagore' for his contribution on this memerable day.<br /><br />Love India.<br /><br /><b>JAI HIND</b><div style="text-align: right;">
<b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/notes/siri-raj/100-years-of-our-national-anthem/241731135897519" target="_blank">by Siri Raj</a></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.<br />Today I call it “RESPECT“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.<br />Today I call it “Maturity“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm.<br />Today I call it “<a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-confidence" rel="wikipedia" title="Self-confidence">SELF-CONFIDENCE</a>“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.<br />Today I call it “SIMPLICITY“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.<br />Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.<br />Today I discovered that is “MODESTY“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.<br />Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT“.<br /><br />As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.<br />Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART“.<br /><br />We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.<br /><br />Today I know THAT IS “LIFE“!</span>
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by Kishor Kulkarni<br /> Our teenage son is a <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.wikinvest.com/industry/Video_Games" rel="wikinvest" title="Video Games">video game</a> addict. Whenever he has <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leisure" rel="wikipedia" title="Leisure">free time</a>, he is sitting at his computer playing some game or the other. I got talking to him about his addiction.<br /> <br />KK: Son, i see you playing the same games again and again. What you are doing is basically the same every time. In one of the games, you seem to be having a gun with which you are firing onto enemy tanks. Essentially, you are just pressing the up/down/ right/left movement keys and the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enter_key" rel="wikipedia" title="Enter key">Enter key</a> on the keyboard. I wonder why it entices you so much. How is it that you don’t get bored?<br /> <br />Son: Dad, though the game is the same, it proceeds in a slightly different way every time i play it. I face different challenges and manage different scores every time. When i get a good score, i am happy and feel encouraged to play it again to better my score. Even when my score is less than the previous occasions, i still feel challenged to try again and do better.<br /> <br /><div>
KK: When one game is over, it asks the question, “Restart (<a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yes-no_question" rel="wikipedia" title="Yes-no question">Yes/No</a>)?” and you seem to be clicking the “Yes” <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Button" rel="wikipedia" title="Button">button</a> to start all over again. When do you think you will have had enough of one game? Son:Probably when i get the highest score. KK: So, until then, you will be at it, right? Son: Yes, Dad. (All this while, my wife who is listening to this conversation interjects at this stage and then the dialogue between the two of us takes on a spiritual flavour. Our son being too young to appreciate spirituality, he continued playing his game.) Wife: I am sure you have a spiritual reason for saying all this.<br /> <br />KK: Yes. The repetitive cycle of life is also like a video game. The jivatma (embodied soul) that is born into this world with a body, is addicted to the game of life. It keeps playing the game again and again, by bearing different bodies, even in different life forms, to enjoy different pains and pleasures peculiar to each species. At every death, the jivatma mostly chooses to click the “Yes” button to restart the game of life, although he has a choice of quitting.<br /> <br />Wife: What would make a jivatma choose the “No” button in answer for “Restart Life (Yes/No)?” question?<br /> <br />KK: When a jivatma feels he has had enough, he will choose the “No” button. That feeling of having had enough is called <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vairagya" rel="wikipedia" title="Vairagya">vairagya</a>. Unless and until one develops that feeling, one remains enslaved by the enchanting game of life.<br /><br />Wife: And how does one develop vairagya?<br /><br />KK: Vairagya is the first step on the path of <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_evolution" rel="wikipedia" title="Spiritual evolution">spiritual evolution</a> ultimately leading to liberation from this game of life. The role of a true sadhguru is crucial in developing vairagya to kindle the spark of craving for liberation in the seeker. As the seeker keeps fanning the spark by means of regular <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_practice" rel="wikipedia" title="Spiritual practice">spiritual practice</a>, the spark turns to fire and burns away worldly desires and attachments. Ultimately, the seeker reaches a stage where he is ready to click the “No” button in answer to the question “Restart Life (Yes/No)?” at the <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death" rel="wikipedia" title="Death">time of death</a>. That is when the jivatma is released from the repeated cycles of birth and death to go return to the paramatma or <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paramatman" rel="wikipedia" title="Paramatman">super soul</a> which is the source of entire creation and whose small part the jivatma is.<br /><br />a note of my friend Raj Thaker on FB ... my salute to him ...</div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">My <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wife">wife</a> and I were at our first stop on our annual <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas_and_holiday_season">Christmas shopping</a> day, making our purchase at <a href="http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/">Bath and Body Works</a>. After Nadia completed the transaction, I told my wife, “She was the nicest person we’ll meet all day.” My wife was skeptical, as we had a long day of shopping ahead of us and would interact with more than a dozen clerks, associates and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waiting_staff">wait staff</a>. I suggested that we “make it interesting,” so we put a $10 wager on my prediction.<br /><br />As the day went on, we visited a number of stores. Some associates were helpful, while others ignored us or brushed us off. By mid-afternoon, we had come full circle geographically and returned to the first mall for a late lunch. As we ate, my wife admitted that I had been right about Nadia and that I had won the bet.<br /><br />Then, she had a brilliant idea. “You don’t need the ten bucks,” she told me. “Why don’t we walk over to the coffee shop across the street, but a $10 <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gift_card">gift card</a> and present it to Nadia?”<br /><br /><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brilliant%21">Brilliant!</a><br /><br />We purchased the card and returned to Bath and Body Works. Nadia, who was ringing in a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Customer">customer</a>’s purchase, saw us and immediately asked, “Oh, no, what did I do wrong this morning?” I replied, “Nothing. We just want to speak with you after you’re done with that customer.” During the next five minutes, as she completed the customer’s transaction, Nadia looked nervously at us periodically and her co-workers looked at us suspiciously. When the customer was finished, she remained out of curiosity to see why we had returned to the store.<br /><br />With Nadia’s undivided attention, we told her about the bet and presented her with her $10 gift certificate. She was overwhelmed and nearly broke down in tears. Nadia is a single mother of two teen-age boys, balancing family life, a full-time job and school. She told us that no one had ever done anything like this for her before.<br /><br />Afterwards, my wife and I agreed that it was the best $10 that we had ever spent. And now we've started a tradition that we’ll continue not only on our annual Christmas shopping day, but on other occasions as well.<br /><br />Imagine – a mere $10 gift card can boost a person’s confidence and make her feel really good about herself. It doesn’t take much of an investment to make an impact on someone’s life. I can’t believe that we didn’t think of this years earlier – but I’m grateful that it didn’t take us years longer to realize this simple truth. And I’ll never walk around again without a $10 coffee gift card in my wallet to recognize someone’s kindness or effort.</span><br />ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br /><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Stuart">Bill Stuart</a>, a health insurance executive and writer, and his wife Chris, a rehabilitation manager and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Small_business">small business owner</a>, live south of <a href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=42.3577777778,-71.0616666667&spn=0.1,0.1&q=42.3577777778,-71.0616666667%20(Boston)&t=h">Boston</a> with their four children. They travel, though, so they could run into you any time, anywhere. Will your random interaction with them be worthy of a token of appreciation? <br /><br />Bill we certainly hope so. You inspired us! <br />Bill can be reached at <a href="mailto:wstuart_41@yahoo.com">wstuart_41@yahoo.com</a> <br /><div style="text-align: right;">
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As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.<br /><br /><b>Here are some ideas to get you started:</b><br /> <b><i>Stop spending time with the wrong people</i></b>. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.<br /><i><b>Stop running from your problems.</b></i> – <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Face-Fear-Street-No-35/dp/0671894285%3FSubscriptionId%3D0G81C5DAZ03ZR9WH9X82%26tag%3Dzemanta-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0671894285">Face</a> them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.<br /><i><b>Stop lying to yourself. </b></i>– You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Road-Less-Traveled-Scott-Peck/dp/0684847280%3FSubscriptionId%3D0G81C5DAZ03ZR9WH9X82%26tag%3Dzemanta-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0684847280">The Road Less Traveled</a>.<br /><i><b>Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.</b></i> – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.<br /><i><b>Stop trying to be someone you’re not.</b></i> – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.<br /><i><b>Stop trying to hold onto the past.</b></i> – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.<br /><b><i>Stop being scared to make a mistake.</i></b> – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.<br /><b><i>Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.</i></b> – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.<br /><b><i>Stop trying to buy happiness.</i></b> – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.<br /><b><i>Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.</i></b> – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationship">long-term relationship</a> with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stumbling_on_Happiness">Stumbling on Happiness</a>.<br /><b><i>Stop being idle.</i></b> – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.<br /><b><i>Stop thinking you’re not ready</i></b>. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.<br /><i><b>Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. </b></i>– Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.<br /><i><b>Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.</b></i> – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.<br /><i><b>Stop trying to compete against everyone else.</b></i> – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.<br /><b><i>Stop being jealous of others.</i></b> – <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy">Jealousy</a> is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”<br /><b><i>Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.</i></b> – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.<br /><b><i>Stop holding grudges.</i></b> – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.<br /><i><b>Stop letting others bring you down to their level.</b></i> – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.<br /><i><b>Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.</b></i> – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.<br /><i><b>Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.</b></i> – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.<br /><i><b>Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.</b></i> – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.<br /><b><i>Stop trying to make things perfect.</i></b> – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.<br /><i><b>Stop following the path of least resistance.</b></i> – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.<br /><i><b>Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.</b></i> – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.<br /><b><i>Stop blaming others for your troubles. </i></b>– The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.<br /><b><i>Stop trying to be everything to everyone.</i></b> – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.<br /><b><i>Stop worrying so much.</i></b> – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.<br /><b><i>Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. </i></b>– Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.<br /><b><i>Stop being ungrateful. </i></b>– No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.<br /><br /> from ~ Positive & Inspirational Quotes ~ via Just Lili<br />
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1. What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what. (This is my creed.)<br /><br />2. You define your own life. Don't let other people write your script.<br /><br />3. Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.<br /><br />4. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. (A lesson from <a class="zem_slink" href="http://www.rottentomatoes.com/celebrity/maya_angelou" rel="rottentomatoes" title="Maya Angelou">Maya Angelou</a>.)<br /><br />5. Worrying is wasted time. Use the same energy for doing something about whatever worries you.<br /><br />6. What you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.<br /><br />7. If the only prayer you ever say is thank you, that will be enough. (From the German theologian and humanist <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meister_Eckhart" rel="wikipedia" title="Meister Eckhart">Meister Eckhart</a>.)<br /><br />8. The happiness you feel is in <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proportionality_%28mathematics%29" rel="wikipedia" title="Proportionality (mathematics)">direct proportion</a> to the love you give.<br /><br />9. Failure is a signpost to turn you in another direction.<br /><br />10. If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world will not fall apart.<br /><br />11. Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn't lie.<br /><br />12. Love yourself and then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter.<br /><br />13. Let passion drive your profession.<br /><br />14. Find a way to get paid for doing what you love. Then every paycheck will be a bonus.<br /><br />15. Love doesn't hurt. It feels really good.<br /><br />16. Every day brings a chance to start over.<br /><br />17. Being a mother is the hardest job on earth. Women everywhere must declare it so.<br /><br />18. Doubt means don't. Don't move. Don't answer. Don't rush forward.<br /><br />19. When you don't know what to do, get still. The answer will come.<br /><br />20. "Trouble don't last always." (A line from a <a class="zem_slink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_%28music%29" rel="wikipedia" title="Spiritual (music)">Negro spiritual</a>, which calls to mind another favorite: This, too, shall pass.)<br />
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