Sunday, November 27, 2011

G-U-Y-S

GUYS NEED TO APPLY THIS ~ 
  • When she pulls away pull her back
  • When you see her start crying just hold her and don't say a word
  • When you see her walking sneak up and hug her waist from behind
  • When she's scared protect her
  • When she steals your favorite hoodie Let her wear it
  • When she says that she loves you She really does mean it
  • When she grabs at your hands Hold her's and play with her fingers :)
  • When she tells you a secret Keep it safe and untold
  • When she looks at you in your eyes Don't look away until she does
  • When she reposts this bulletin She wants you to read it ♥
  • When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go
  • When she says she's ok don't believe it
  • Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
  • Treat her like she's all that matters to you
  • Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid
  • Don't talk about other girls around her
  • Kiss her in the pouring rain
  • When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is: "Whose butt am I kicking baby?"
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Maa ~ Mom

Uhhh yes, I am a Mommy! 
That makes me an alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress, teacher, nurse, doctor, handyman, security officer, photographer, counselor, chauffeur, event planner, personal assistant, ATM & I scare away the boogie man. 
I don't get holidays, sick pay or days off. I work through the DAY & NIGHT. I am on call 24/7 for the rest of my life. And that's just with my first job... 
BEING A Mommy!!!
I may not be anything to you but I am everything to someone! 
Re-post if you are a PROUD Mommy!!! ♥ and if you don't think it's a job try it for a week

Reshared here from my FB friends' wall
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Saturday, November 26, 2011

" जीवन का सच"

जन्म लेते ही प्राणी मोह -पाश मे बंध जाता है
माँ की मोहिनी मूरत देखकर मुस्कराता है
रंग -बिरंगे खिलोनो की दुनिया मे रम जाता है
भाई -बहन ,दोस्त -बंधुयो मे हँसता -खिलखिलाता है
... न फिक्र न फाका ,मस्त -मलंग -सा जीवन बिताता है
जब योवन की दहलीज पर खुद को खड़ा पता है
तब नए सपने लिये कल्पना के घोड़े दोडाता है
लक्ष्य प्राप्त कर सफलता की सीढ़ी तो चढ़ जाता है
लेकिन जिसने पैदा किया उसी को भूल जाता है
दुनिया मेरी मुट्ठी मे ,यह सोच कर इतराता है
प्रिय का संग पाकर गृहस्थी को अपनाता है
बच्चो संग खेलकर अपना बचपन दोहराता है
धीरे -धीरे जीवन की भाग -दौड़ मे पड़कर उलझता जाता है
फिर वृद्ध होकर स्वयं को असहाए पाता है
जीवन साथी से बिछुड़ कर अकेला रह जाता है
सोचता है कहा गए ,माता -पिता जिन्होंने जन्म दिया
कहा गए संगी -साथी जिनके साथ जीवन -व्यतीत किया
इंसान का वजूद क्या यही सोच पछताता है
आशा -निराशा के दौर से निकलकर
काल -चक्र मे फंस जाता है
किये गये कर्मो के अनुसार
फिर से नया जन्म पता है
इस तरह आवागमन का चक्र
निरंतर चलता जाता है
by Brajesh Soni
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Friday, November 25, 2011

The 7 Habits of Highly Incompetent People


Number 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

Yup. They see problems in every opportunity.

They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair.

They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions.

Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes.

They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.

Number 2 - They Act Before They Think.

They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought.

Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain.

Then they spend & spend again until nothing's left. They don't think about the future. What they're after is the pleasure they will experience at present.

They don't think about the consequences. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.
Number 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen

They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying.

Oftentimes they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore.

When other people advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud to admit their mistakes.

In their mind they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.
Number 4 - They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success.

Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure.

At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.

Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.
Number 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down.

They could have asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they're too proud. They don't want to ask advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish anything.
Number 6 - They Waste Their Time

They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives.
It's perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.
Number 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.

They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life.

What these people don't know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed.

If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off.

Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.



source: here
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Thursday, November 24, 2011

Mom n Dad

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‎"The parents have to learn that the child should not be insulted, humiliated, condemned.
If you want to help him, love him more. Appreciate what is good in him rather than emphasizing what is bad.
Talk about his goodness. Let the whole neighborhood know how nice and beautiful a boy he is.
You may be able to shift his energy from the bad side to the good side, from the dark side to the lighted side, because you will make him aware that this is the way to get respect, this is the way to be honored.
And you will prevent him from doing anything that makes him fall down in people's eyes.
Every child is simple, just a clean slate. Then the parents start writing on his slate ~ what he has to become.
Then the teachers, the priests, the leaders -- they all go on emphasizing that you have to become somebody; otherwise, you have wasted your life.
Just the opposite is the case.
You are a being. You need not become anybody else. That is the meaning of simplicity: remaining at ease with one's being, and not going on any track of becoming -- which is unending. " ~ Alokparna S Thakur
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Forgiving Spouse !!!

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Shared by one of my dear friend via email … it touched me … so now it’s for you to look at …

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot ...the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died.

The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words. What do you think were the four words? The husband just said "I Love You Darling". The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life but there is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to keep the bottle away, this will not have happened. No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.


Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth in human relationship in giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don't multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. Take off all your envies, jealousies, and unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

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Saturday, November 19, 2011

Friend or Foe ..(Inspirational) ..!!

Friends
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How many of you have had bad feelings of dislike or good feelings of attraction towards a complete stranger, for no reason?

Following story from a Sikh religious book illustrates one suh incident and teaches us how to counter such feelings and convert a foe into a friend.

In olden days when India was being ruled by Rajas (Kings), a merchant decided to get rich qickly and started a business of selling sandalwood hoping that people would prefer to use it in cremation of their dear ones. The things turned out to the contrary, as people could not afford to buy sandalwood due to its exhorbitant cost compared to ordinary wood. The merchant was in great financial difficulty and was hoping some rich person to die so that he could sell his sandalwood for his cremation.

It so happened that one day King of the State happened to pass by his shop with his Ministers and soldiers . A thought crossed the mind of merchant .. what if this King dies, then surely my entire stock of sandalwood will get sold out and I will recover my money.

On the other hand, King cast his look on merchant and for no reason felt hatredness with a thought of hanging the merchant to death. This thought disturbed King for several days. At last he called his wisest Minister and asked him to find out reason behind this.

The Minister disguised himself as an ordinary citizen and visited the merchant and in a friendly chat found out his wish and the reason for it. The Minister came and narrated it to the King and explained to him that it was because the merchant wanted him to die, the vibes of that thought created equal and opposite thought in the mind of King against the merchant. The King was himself a wise man and decided to put an end to this negative field between him and the merchant.

Next day he ordered that the merchant be presented before him.

Accordingly the Merchant was produced before him who stood with folded hands, trembling with fear. To the utter disbelief of merchant, the King expressed his desire to buy over his entire stock of sandalwood, ostensibly for a religious ceremony (havan). As soon as the merchant heard this, his negative feelings towards King turned into positive feelings, which in turn resulted the King's feelings towards merchant into positive ones.

Morale: You can win over a foe by taking an initiative yourself to do a favor to him, thereby weakening his feelings of animosity towards you.  



from my friends facebook wall 
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Friday, November 18, 2011

Thanksgiving

Laughing Budhha
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Let us give thanks to God above,
Thanks for expressions of His love,
Seen in the book of nature, grand
Taught by His love on every hand.

Let us be thankful in our hearts,
Thankful for all the truth imparts,
For the religion of our Lord,
All that is taught us in His word.

Let us be thankful for a land,
That will for such religion stand;
One that protects it by the law,
One that before it stands in awe.

Thankful for all things let us be,
Though there be woes and misery;
Lessons they bring us for our good-
Later 'twill all be understood.

Thankful for peace o'er land and sea,
Thankful for signs of liberty,
Thankful for homes, for life and health,
Pleasure and plenty, fame and wealth.

Thankful for friends and loved ones, too,
Thankful for all things, good and true,
Thankful for harvest in the fall,

Thankful to Him who gave it all.

This poem by Lizelia Augusta Jenkins Moorer, an African-American poet was writen at the turn of the 20th century. Her generous, hopeful view of Thanksgiving is made even more remarkable by the suffering and discrimination she endured as an African-American in the late 19th and early 20th century.


source here

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Another thought for the New Year
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"When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. as you treat him you will treat yourself. As you think of him you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself." ~ A Course In Miracles, via Janine.
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Thursday, November 17, 2011

Friend

None is so rich that he can get along without a friend, and none so poor that he cannot be enriched by one. ~ Unknown

Letting go

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Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care. Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave.  

It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible – controlling that which we cannot–and instead, focus on what is possible–which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
~Melody Beattie.
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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Marriage ~ Married or not… you read this

is this a self help group, or a legal practice...
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This was shared on my Facebook wall by a friend, I thought I would share it with all of you.


“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
Feel Free To share with Others :)
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

R e l i g i o n

Tenzin Gyatso gives a characteristic hands-rai...Image via Wikipedia“The best religion is the one that gets you closest to God. It is the one that makes you a better person.”

“Whatever makes you
more compassionate,
more sensible,
more detached,
more loving,
more humanitarian,
more responsible,
more ethical.”
“The religion that will do that for you is the best religion” ~ Dalai Lama
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Monday, November 14, 2011

Keep Your Dream


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A friend named Monty owns a horse ranch in Maharashtra. During one public gathering at his house, he narrated a story. “It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up.
“That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan for a 4,000-square-foot house that would sit on a 200-acre dream ranch.
 “He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’
“The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `why did I receive an F?’
“The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `if you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same paper, making no changes at all.
He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.” He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.” When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough sense not to give up on yours.”
 “Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.”

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Monday, November 7, 2011

The Triple-Filter


In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to most knowledgeable person. One day a friend met him and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"Well, no," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and…"

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now, let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend is something good?"

"Umm, no, on the contrary…"

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about my friend, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass the test though, because there’s one filter left—the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really"

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor even useful,  why tell it to m
e at all?"